It’s 2am! Yikes! But I needed to respond to a few comments, emails, and other blogs before I hit the sack.

Like I mentioned in my Podcast, TooConservative.com posted about a teacher from MA who read his second grade class a book about two princes getting married and it started a firestorm. Well, Too commented to that post and gave me the heads up about a post he was planning to do on gay adoption.

Of course, I had to check it out. Why? Well, like I said he’s not the typical right-wing fundamentalist - he’s actually a REAL republican. A little more on the conservative side for my tastes but he’s got interesting ideas and insight and it makes for a good read. I’m always open to new ideas.

So I read the post - he’s basically got no solid opinion on gay adoption - but the comments (as they usually do on his blog - Leviticus is like so 2004) DROVE ME NUTS! So I had to respond.

In case you don’t want to trek over there here is my comment for your reading pleasure…

It’s that infamous “liberal homosexual male” that changed the picture out on my site and in turn affected your post. haha I still laugh everytime I say that out loud.First of all, I TOTALLY could have done worse with that graphic. However, I respected - and somewhat agreed - with many things you had to say on your site. And you don’t seem to be one of those thoughtless fundamentalist who spews hatred in the name of the lord (I might be wrong but I believe there is a sin somewhere in there) so I was reserved. *patting myself on the back*

Second of all, I am NOT a republican. NOR am I a democrat. I am a registered independent. I have never been able to pick a “team” (no pun intended) as both parties infuriate me. I like to see an issue for the issue and not be bound by a party to make the decision they want me to make and not the one that needs to be made. I am attending the LCR convention and plan to attend the Stonewall Democrat convention in order to provide background coverage of what is going on with these two groups. I want to get a better understanding for myself of how these groups think - on the issues and politically - and they relay that to my viewers.

Third, and finally…I’m gay, plan on getting married, and having kids - adopted or otherwise. I’m not going to whip out statistics that favor my beliefs and try to prove/convince you that being gay, getting married, or adopting children will make or break society. That’s just stupid. Statistics don’t work when domestic violence, spousal rape, and child molestation all go VASTLY under-reported in our country. Statistics don’t work when society hasn’t yet fully accepted gay people as equals and given them the same opportunities to perform under the same conditions as straight people. Statistics don’t work when you have people taking the same data and using it to provide two completely opposite conclusions.

And those who run to their bibles to find the answers to these very difficult questions that lay ahead for our country also come to two opposite conclusions - though one seems to get more attention than the other. That’s the one that advocates division, separation, hate, and violence. After all, I think somewhere in Leviticus is a passage that promotes www.godhatesfags.com, isn’t there? The other side - the one that advocates inclusion, peace, and growth that could possibly modernize and salvage christianity without using fear tactics…yeah that one gets dismissed as an “attempt to pervert the word of the lord.” I never knew god was so against inclusion, peace, and growth - Go figure!

No, I don’t need statistics or figures or even god to prove/convince you that what I believe in is right. What I need to do is get married, have children, and get to know you. Then you will get to see that my life is not much different than yours. I work, pay taxes, and even have the same spousal and child headaches you have. Over time as you see my marriage perservere and my family age and grow that line of right and wrong you have drawn in the sand will slowly start to fade. Once you come to my daughter’s high school graduation party and find out she’s going to Harvard just like your daughter or you bring your son to my son’s 8th birthday party and realize that he and we are like any other family you’ll start to realize that maybe your way of thinking was wrapped up in unfounded and untested predjudices.

But be warned - you might see some things that make you uncomfortable, hear some things that send you home shivering, and experience some things you would never experience with your straight married friends. After all, you’ve probably never seen an unprovoked gay bashing before. Or heard someone yell “FAGGOT” or “DYKE” to you as you walk down the street. And I’m sure you’ve never experienced a married couple - friends of yours - who comes back from vacation bruised and beaten because they were holding hands on the beach and a nice group of guys decided they didn’t like that. These things are not pretty, but they are reality…they are life.

It will be uncomfortable - change always is - but I’m willing to try. I’m willing to try to show you I’m just a person like you. To be your neighbor and your friend. What I am unwilling to do is back down from the American Dream.